The following is a guest post by a fellow blogger, Jennee Thompson.
I have a crush on several dead men. It’s not like a hard core crush, it’s just that I admire a lot of dead men so much that if they were alive I would have huge crushes on them.
King David. And I’m not just say this because I saw a statue of him…up-close and personal.
William Shakespeare. Can we all agree he was a pure genius and way before his time? Wit, humor, deep thought and love…he could describe, in detail, the smallest feeling that might ever arrive in our conscience.
Ralph Waldo Emerson. Another brilliant man that saw the truth for the truth. He would point out what he saw and how he thought in his essays, and it makes you wonder why you’ve never had these simple yet profound thoughts too.
“Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.”
“The only gift is a portion of thyself.”
“For everything you have missed, you have gained something else.”
That’s not always my first thought but he’s right, yet again.
One of his most famous words of wisdom is “the only way to have a friend is to be one.” This is one of my favorite quotes that I have committed to memory.
I believe that friendship is the most important gift that you can give to someone. Friendship shouldn’t be taken for granted, and it’s hard work. Friends go easier than they come, and no matter how you play your hand, just remember the ones that stay are there because they have chosen to stay. Your life is only as important as the people you place in it.
I read recently a comment that has gotten under my skin. Of course, now I can’t remember where I found it and can’t recall word for word, but this is the overall statement.
Don’t ever become a friend with someone that doesn’t have friends. It makes you look like you don’t have friends and if you are their only friend, they cling to you.
Shallow friendship is the friendship this statement is about. When things are looking up for you, they cling to you, proud to call you friend because your status looks good. You are going places and they want a ride to the spotlight. The “friends” disappear from your life when you lose your job, break up in a marriage or relationship, or find other ways to distance themselves from you when your life isn’t “all together.”
It pains me to know that there are people out there that don’t have friends. They have no concept of what the meaning of friendship is. They don’t have someone to joke and laugh with, call to cry with or even someone to just talk to when they need to talk.
Take a moment to think about life without your closest friends in it. It’s a terrible feeling, isn’t it? The thought of being alone and unsure where you can find a friend.
The amazing thing about new friendships is the judgment cards aren’t on the table yet. When you are getting to know someone through friendship for the first time, you accept their differences, are open to personality and willing to learn about their life; past and present. The trick to friendship is to keep that openness and to be the friend.
Ralph is right because once we forget that we are the one being the friend, and start expecting friendship, that is when the root of the friendship starts to become weak. The friendship is no longer about each other, but now it is only about you.
The only way to have a friend is to be one.
Go be friends to those who don’t expect it and appreciate it. And you just might rediscover the meaning of friendship.
Visit Cheap Therapy at